“Do I look fat in this dress?”
“What if she doesn’t like my jokes?”
“What if he doesn’t call me afterwards?”
Sounds familiar? Well, don’t feel bad, we all have
gone through these obsessive situations where we inspect every single dating aspect we possibly could. The insecurities pop-up, whether you’re single, just starting
to date or already married. Probably, you are afraid that the tiniest glitch could ruin
your chances with this person.
Insecurities lead men and women to lose confidence
which could probably affect dates negatively. When you obsess over something for
too long, chances are it would probably turn out the way you think it would. The
truth is, it could have all been avoided if you just had fun with the date instead
of focusing on everything that could go wrong.
Anyways, we have cooked up a few ways for you to overcome
this obstacle. Read along, you may discover something useful!
Be
Yourself
I know this may seem like a cliché but
hey, clichés can be right at times. The less you try to be someone you’re not,
the more the beauty within you unravels. This gives the person you’re dating to
discover who you truly are. I’m not saying your date will definitely like you
when you’re being yourself but that’s the whole purpose of dating – to discover
who you genuinely click with. Wouldn't you rather be with someone who likes you
for you rather than someone you’re pretending to be? You can’t pretend forever
and just think what a mess it’ll be when he or she finds out who you truly are.
Don’t
Obsess
If your date hasn't called you after
you've gone out, why don’t you give them a call? If he or she doesn't seem too interested,
get over it! If you caught them at a bad time, they will call you back as long
as they genuinely like you. However, if they don’t, please do not be waiting by
the phone or wondering what you did wrong. The past is the past and that’s
where you should leave it. When you harp on these situations, it just makes you
more insecure.
Don’t
Be Defined by Someone Else
A lot people tend to make these
mistakes nowadays. You don’t need a partner to survive. Don’t rush too much
into things such as wanting to be married by the time you’re 30. Takes things
slow, sometimes, dating may not be the right thing for you at the moment. Remember
it is a choice you make because you want to for yourself – not because all
your friends have boyfriends and girlfriends.
To sum it all up, dating should be fun and not be a
source of insecurity. Remember, nobody wants to be with an insecure person who’s
in constant need of reassurance.
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